Same Game, Different Rules..

Have you ever heard of a game, where the rules are player dependent? Where the rules change as and when the players change at strike??!! Welcome to the game called 'Relationships'!! This is applicable to any sort of relationship, not just the boy girl one. Let me explain how.

We always expect our moms to be in the pink of their moods, just because they are homemakers, while we ourselves can have ballistic mood swings since we have a 9 to 5 job per say. Quite inhuman of us I must say, as managing a household is no child's play!! But we are so inconsiderate that we don't try to understand those times when our moms are a lil on the edge of their murky moods.

The same analogy can be applied to most other relationships as well. But this rule changing thingy is utmost prominent in what I'd like to call the traditional boy-gal relationship. We go on a date and we invariably expect the boy to shell out the bill. We girls, expect the boys to surprise us with gifts and what not!!! That is quite hypocritical of us, since on one hand, we advocate equality of sexes and on the other hand we want that sort of a male domination in our relationships. We are independent gals and are well to do. The least we can do is to go 'Dutch' (if you know what I mean) on our dates, or if the guy is a gentleman enough to drop us back home, we pay for the petrol or something. My point is never make hard rigid rules just for one person. Make rules that can be applicable to both the individuals.

Coming to the other end of the spectrum, the boys want to be mothered in their relationships, which is quite pathetic. They expect the gals to call them, be concerned if their done with their meals, take care of them while they're ill, understand when they're busy and understand when they wanna have fun!! When you tell them that you're busy at work, that's complete bulls**t to them!! Hypocrites them too!! Heck!! They expect you to be concerned about their family while they can take your family issues for a ride!! After a hard day's work, we are expected to cook and clean with the same enthu and vigor while they can come back home and crib about a long day at work. Come on!! We work in the same office environment and have the same stress to deal with. But who will understand?!

My point in short is, we must understand each other as to how it might be in the other person's shoes. Never have any atrocious expectations from the other person, that you might not be able to fulfill, if the onus were on you. Try to have common rules that might be applicable to both for an amicable and joyous coexistence.

P.S.: After reading this post, I'm getting the feeling of having delivered a 'pravachan':D

--- Colour Bomb ^_^

The Jealous 21 Jean Concept?

Jumping right into the topic, are we following the Jealous 21 Jean concept in our society to view the ladies? Once upon a time, say 1873, Jacob Davis and Levi Strauss invented the blue pair of jeans. With a lot of evolution, we now have come to the age of precisely categorizing our ladies jeans into three vivid categories such as (brace yourselves) Hottie-slim hips, Hourglass-regular hips and Bootilicious-curvy hips!! That's just about jeans. But are we secretly being rated or categorized similarly by the men when they look at a certain gal?

Welcome to the age of sizes! One size fits all has been defied left,right and center. Its the age of mixed sizes. On one end of the spectrum, we have Kareena Kapoor endorsing the size "0" and on the other hand we have Vidya Balan, well, endorsing a voluptuous body. So, as average Indians what style do we adept to? We are anyway generously endowed but then some of us do manage to go on silly diets to look stick thin. Is all this necessary? Who are we trying to impress? There are some gals who believe in the myth that smoking helps you to lose weight. But what about your lungs baby?! 

No matter what shape the men are, for all we care, they may look like bean bags themselves, but expect their gals to have a sauve figure!! Men invariably tend to categorize gals into certain slots. Such as, if a girl is stick thin, they will call her a plank coz she will be devoid of assets as such. Or if a girl is a lil plump, they will call her an aunty or a balloon!! Preposterous! Categorizing also extends to the style quotient or the type of clothes worn by her. If she is in Indian or ethnic wear, she will branded as a behenji. If she wears jeans or better still skirts, showing off her toned legs, she will branded as a "maal". Again, prejudicial branding on this would be that a behenji will be a "smartypant" and a "maal" will be a dumb bimbo!!

Why is all this grooming expected only out of a gal? I see very few guys who are utterly conscious about their looks. But I know for sure, that all girls are conscious about they way they look and carry themselves. Its ok to criticize a girl to a certain extent. But is it ok to criticize her to such an extent that she has to undergo a catastrophe of a change to make her likeable?! Looks after all are just momentary. Its the essence of a person that is long lasting. Instead of emphasizing just on looks and outward appearance, we need to inculcate the habit of accepting the people the way they are, unless they turn out to be complete jerks! :D

In short, eat healthy, stay fit and most importantly, wear good fitting jeans :D

--- Colour Bomb ^_^